Sunday, June 30, 2019

Acceptance vs. Being at Peace

Acceptance means that you have taken action to allow something in. It doesn’t mean you have to be at peace with it. So I’d rather be at peace with something, it’s like the next step in acceptance. Probably leads to less stress and overall happier life.

Saturday, June 29, 2019

No Time Like the Present

If you were 20 and had 20 years to live, what would you do?

If you were 60 and had the same 20 years to live, would you do things differently?

People say it's time that they cherish, time is the most valuable thing, I think it's youth, that we covet. The only thing I know for sure is right now is the youngest you'll ever be again. Act accordingly.

Friday, June 28, 2019

Borrow a Dog

I highly recommend it. Unless you hate dogs, in which case, you’re probably a bad person. You won’t break it, you’ll have fun and the dog will probably enjoy spending the day, afternoon or hour with someone new too.

Thursday, June 27, 2019

Sorry, No Change

Companies want to go cashless. Government officials are stepping in saying they can’t. What if the company say fine, we take cash but refuse to start the day off with any change. Then what? 

Will there be a law saying companies have to have a certain amount of change and of what denominations that change must be in at the start of the day? What if they give it all out, do they now have to send an employee out to get more change? And if they refuse, cage them?

How about this,  if a business wants to refuse cash, let them, it’s their business.

Wednesday, June 26, 2019

No Time

We all get 168 hours each week. How can one person run a multimillion dollar company and another can’t seem to keep up with their bills even though their life depends on it?

The word, "priorities," wasn’t used widely until the 1940s. Priority - prior - the one before. The one before what? Whatever your objective.

Do The Thing. Singular.

Tuesday, June 25, 2019

Unsolicited Advice

People usually need a friend, not a counselor.

I’ve started asking, “do you want my opinion?” When I remember to at least. I’m not perfect but I’m working on being available, instead of a therapist.

Monday, June 24, 2019

Change Always Wins

The only thing constant in this world is change. Whether you do or don’t, change occurs. Change is constant, say you eat the same thing every single day and have the same routine, no matter what, your body will still get older. The sun will still damage your skin. Your telomeres will shrink over time, and eventually, you will die, as of 2019 science that is.

If you’re going to change anyway, why not make active efforts to improve your situation and the lives of those around you? I’m trying my best not to give unsolicited advice but it’s hard when the people you love refuse to love themselves.

This is where doing The Things comes into play. You probably know what you can do to better your life. You can better your mental health, physical health, finances, relationships and more. Seek wisdom and knowledge because, in five years, five years will pass. What you do along the way will determine your present.

Sunday, June 23, 2019

The Way Things Are

I often look at businesses and what they do and think, why can’t they just be better? Why not ask if I want a receipt before printing one out? Why don’t all grocery stores have self-checkout lines? How come waiters at restaurants ask if I need something while I’m in the middle of a sentence?

I don’t know why, so I ask. Cashiers say the receipts come out automatically. Grocery store managers say they may change, but not right now. Servers tell me that’s the way it is, they were trained to be bothersome, although they would never say it that way.

Where can we be better? What’s stopping us? Eventually, the old companies will die out and the new ones will start up. Companies like Netflix and Amazon will keep going until they decide, “that’s the way things are.”

Once a company or a person decides that change is no longer required or advantageous, then the beginning of the end is upon them.

Saturday, June 22, 2019

Family Talk

How come people talk to there families how they’d never speak to a stranger? Someone you love, would die for and, would kill for, but for some reason, annoys you to death. Our attitude beats out gratitude sometimes and our tempers get the best of us.

Meanwhile, out in the world, a stranger seems to get the benefit of the doubt every time. We speak to strangers with compassion and understanding. We thank them in the warmest and most genuine tone. When our family members do something for us, they get a "thanks" that’s half-hearted.

There’s a practice you can start, constantly do nice things with zero expectations of reciprocity. How can you do something nice for everyone in your life every day? It can be something small, something large, whatever it is, do something. What’s the downside?

Friday, June 21, 2019

Ask

Nobody is self-made. Anybody that tells you they are is either lying or delusional. Even a lone hunter and gatherer living in the wilderness needs nature to provide. You’d also be shocked as to who is willing to help. When Steve Jobs was a 12-year-old child he asked Bill Hewlett for some electronic components, Mr. Hewlett, abided.

Steve Jobs said, “I’ve always found something to be very true, which is most people don’t get those experiences because they never ask. I’ve never found anybody that didn’t want to help me if I asked them for help.”

Seek the keepers of knowledge and wisdom, ask them for help.

Thursday, June 20, 2019

It Has Been Done Before

Whatever you’re trying to do, there’s a roadmap, not perfect, but similar. Even Bill Gates, the creator of the first software company, had a roadmap, he decided to license instead of transfer ownership. He didn’t invent licensing, but he used it. Henry Ford didn’t invent cars, but he made huge strides in the assembly line. Regardless of your goal, there are people out there who have done similar things, find them.

Wednesday, June 19, 2019

Finding Wisdom

What area of your life do you need help with?

Your current thoughts and actions have gotten you to where you are, less calamity of course. Will your previous actions, if unchanged get you to where you want to go? Probably not. There are people that seem to always be struggling. These same people almost never seek outside wisdom though. A fool never learns from their mistakes, the average person learns from their mistakes but a wise person learns from the mistakes of others. I refuse to be a fool, so I’ll at least learn from my mistakes but it’s wisdom I’m after.

Tuesday, June 18, 2019

Wish Them Well

There will be people that annoy you. People that lie to you. People that will affect your mood in a negative way. Wish them well.

Recently, I began a practice of prayer, not to a god, but to the Force of Goodness and it’s the darndest thing. There are people in my life that do things which bring me great annoyance or confusion. These aren’t attacks or on purpose, but like my dad refusing to change his diet or exercise. It hurts me to see him act so nonchalant about his health. I’ve discussed the science and shared information but nothing has worked. It got to a point where it would physically pain me to see him eating junk food or drinking soda. I knew I was the one that had to change.

I started praying for his happiness in the morning. The first day, my annoyance and pain went down. The second day, same thing. He drinks a soda every day by the way, which is 30 pounds of sugar a year but that’s neither here nor there. After a week, almost all pain and annoyance is gone. I understand that I can’t change his behavior, I’ve made peace with that, but by going further and actually wishing him well, it has released something, I don’t know what, but it feels great.

Monday, June 17, 2019

Bite-Sized Tasks

I try not to get overwhelmed thinking about everything a certain idea entails. I don’t think about my presentation to city council on banning plastic bags because I haven’t even formulated the concepts and ideas into a coherent and infallible argument. So I spend a couple of hours a week, getting to that point first. I don’t want to play out a scenario or waste energy on a hypothetical situation that may never even come to be. Sometimes we get lost in the what-ifs that we never even begin, paralysis by analysis.

I know that tomorrow will come with or without my help. All I can do today is become a better person so that I may greet tomorrow with a little more capacity. Abraham Lincoln said, if he had six hours to chop down a tree, four would be spent sharpening the ax. I’ve never chopped a tree down with an ax but I think an hour of sharpening and then thirty minutes of chopping makes more sense than four straight hours of sharpening and then two of chopping. Feel free to correct me if that’s the case. 

Sunday, June 16, 2019

How Are You?

Back to the bad questions. I feel like diving into this one a little deeper. This and what do you do irk me the most. I think it’s because we don’t want the truth most of the time. We ask in a superficial way. We expect “good” or “fine.” When someone responds too negatively or too positively, the asker is usually thrown for an uncomfortable loop.

I don’t like playing the semantics card on this one too regularly but I definitely go hardcore honest with my answer. I can say, “How am I? Well, I am because my parents had me and I have stayed alive this long.” That’s how I am, after all, but I know it’s not what they mean. There’s a word for people like that which I can’t think of at the moment. Honestly responding to this question though is great. Because I get to see who I’m dealing with. Did they ask superficially or with genuine interest?

I also tend to ask back a different question. I like “How’s your happiness?” I’m sure I’ll find another good question eventually but right now it’s good. People tilt their heads, blink quickly and respond. I like the conversation much more too. I’m sure others won’t copy my style, not yet. But it’s not about that, it’s about progress, slowly moving the needle to a more open, and accepted dialogue.

Saturday, June 15, 2019

Write it Down

Ideas always strike, sometimes at the most inconvenient times. I try to write them down as soon as they come to me. But sometimes I don’t. Then the idea comes back to me, and I mull it over some more. This is why I think it’s important because I don’t want to spend time thinking about the same things. That’s wasting time. When I write it down, it’s out of my system and if anything comes up, well it’s probably in addition to previous my thoughts.

I also find that starting the writing process on an idea unlocks previously hidden thoughts on the subject matter.

When ideas start flowing, other ideas follow. When was the last time you had a good brainstorm? I haven’t used that word in probably 10 years. Well, good thing I started writing on this topic I guess. Pursue your goals, but before you can do that, you have to remember your ideas, when they come, bet on a record, not your memory.

Friday, June 14, 2019

Daily Dailies

What we do daily will determine what we do daily.

Your habits and mine will create the life that we’ve worked for. Things will happen to help and to hurt our pursuits, undoubtedly, but these will largely lean in the direction we’re leaning. The smartest workers, the easiest workers, tend to have the ability to continue working smart and easy.

It’s not how they got there that seems to escape us, but how they started. We see these people and say things like, “I can’t do that” well Henry Ford, the prolific employer, would have replied, “You’re right.” Self-belief isn’t enough though, what we need is action. Even a tiny, minuscule, small step in the right direction, that over time will lead to the same success we once thought improbable. In fact, I’d argue belief isn’t even necessary, just the right actions. When procrastination starts to creep in, I remind myself, to just do the work, hit my daily goal and move on to the next thing.

Thursday, June 13, 2019

Avoiding What Needs to be Done

Seth Godin, one of my role models, asks his readers if we’re hiding. Hiding from the work that needs to be done. I know that I hide sometimes. I’ll sit down, open the laptop and get up quickly because I don’t have water. While in the kitchen, I see dirty dishes, that can’t stand, so I clean them. On the way back to the computer, I remember something and maybe get a little more off track, I ask myself, “What’s happening?” I answer, “I’m hiding.”

Why do some of us do this? I think everyone does. I’ve asked people about it, and getting started seems to be the hardest part, the first push up, not the last. The first word, not the last. The first step, not the last. Once we start, creativity flows, our bodies rise to the occasion and start moving, if only we could take that first step more often.

Wednesday, June 12, 2019

Where’s Your Map?

Whenever you’re going somewhere it’s always easier if you have a map. Even if you’re the one that made the map. Write out all of your goals. In my first book, I run you through an exercise. If you won $5,000,000 what would you do tomorrow?

I had ideas to work toward reducing waste and pollution on a grander scale. What I’ve come to realize is that there are people that have made this their life work. Great for them and I’ll carry the torch. There are many battles out there and we only have so much time and emotional energy. I have a daily and weekly map, my to-do list and my calendar that keeps me on task and working toward my various goals.

Justified Living

How do we live with ourselves? Every purchase has a footprint, some cost or effect that can be traced back to suffering.

How do we justify this? By saying things like, “The tree is already chopped down.” Or “It could be worse.” My goal is to make people be more thoughtful. Just because something is bad, doesn’t mean you should make it worse.

Tuesday, June 11, 2019

What Do You Do?

I don’t ask people the question of “What do you do?” I ask, “what are you working on?” Half the time they look like they’ve just been asked to calculate the trajectory of a comet two light years away. Fast blinking usually means they’re thinking. I get a what do you mean. I repeat the question because it’s very clear, “What are you working on?” The other half reaping with the question, “Like where do I work?” The conversation goes many ways after this, but where it doesn’t go is to a boring place with no emotional effort. I think that’s better.


The best answer I can think of do my question, “What are you working on?” is, “Myself.” What a good answer. Then I ask how and we have a great conversation. Yesterday, I said “What have you built recently? at least get them in the mind frame of building things. If we don’t think about building something, do you think that it will ever happen by accident?

Monday, June 10, 2019

Asking Better Questions

Whenever I find myself in a new social situation, I always hear the same questions. Mostly, “What do you do?” and “How are you?” These are bad questions. They’re bad questions because they aren’t asking specifically what the asker wants to know. “What do you do?” should really be “How do you make a living?” and “How are you?” should be “What feelings are you currently experiencing?” I know, even these aren’t perfect but they’re better.

That’s my goal, to ask better questions. I like to ask, “When was the last time you made something?” I haven’t been able to use the follow up yet, “Don’t you want to?” because I need to figure out how to word it in a less accusatory tone. Of course, people want to achieve and create things but our current culture doesn’t really promote that. It promotes consumption.

Sunday, June 9, 2019

Build it For Your Target Audience

If I write a personal development book and show it to people that read personal development and they say it’s bad then I need to change it. If I get 10 people to read it and 7 say it needs work, and this is what they read, then it needs work. If 7 of them say it’s great, then it might be ready. But, remember, it’s not true until money exchanges hands. If I show it to someone that hasn’t read a book since high school and they say they don’t like it, I don’t care, it’s not for them. Seth Godin, said shun the nonbelievers and he’s right.

Above all, listen to the cash register.

Saturday, June 8, 2019

Trust in Business

Trust is crucial in any producer and consumer relationship. If people are looking for something in particular and the reviews are good, they’ll buy it. They don’t care how much passion, love or enthusiasm went into building it. All they know is they have a want or need and you have the solution. Do you have to do this forever? No. Actually, you don’t even have to do this at all. Sometimes people will just give something a shot and it works out.

How many people start building a business before testing it out, before talking to their audience? A lot. When they finish building it, nobody comes and they get discouraged. Well, if you’re doing something for someone, shouldn’t you ask if they want it in the first place? Maybe they’ll say “I just want it faster or cheaper,” great, work from that and go backward. If it was better would they be fine paying the same price? If it was a little slower would the be okay with paying less? Or maybe, they just want something because it makes them feel a certain way, figure out what that feeling is and make something that gives them that feeling.

Most importantly though, will they buy? If you put people in a hypothetical situation they’ll often answer in the way you want them to. Supporting and confirming your bias. But if you ask them to open their wallet and buy something, the story changes. Look for the truth in action, not words. The truth is a transaction.

Friday, June 7, 2019

Sometimes, The Customer Comes First

What happens when you build something you want to build and other people want to see it built? Success.

What if you build something you want for other people, but they don’t want it? You might be satisfied that you have built something but disappointed because nobody else wanted it.

What if you build something you’re not too thrilled about but people love it? You may feel unfulfilled or bad. They are satisfied and buy it. Crucially though, it allows you to build something for them again, and maybe this time, they’ll have open minds because of your previous work.

Thursday, June 6, 2019

Strategy. Plan. Achieve. Have A SPA Day

A strategy is a plan of action or policy designed to achieve a major or overall aim. A plan is a detailed proposal for doing or achieving something. Achieving something is to successfully bring about or reach (a desired objective, level, or result) by effort, skill, or courage.

So yes, have a SPA day and become a little bit more of Who You Could Be.

Wednesday, June 5, 2019

Cocaine

December 31, 2012, I sniffed my first line. A friend had a habit of giving people cocaine on their birthdays. I was 24, had a mortgage on a three-story house 15 minutes from Downtown Los Angeles, and had been selling weed for seven years. What could go wrong? I took it and fell in love. I don’t say this to glorify it but to wave a flag of caution.

You may not get addicted to cocaine. What I’ve found to be true though is once you do it you get a lifelong craving for it. Every person I’ve spoken with that has done it once, has done it again, or would do it again if given the opportunity unless they’ve made a decision to never use that drug again.

So then why do I believe it should be legal?

It’s addicting. So is sugar. It ruins people’s lives. It...doesn’t, not really. Cocaine, although habit forming isn’t impossible to stop using. Even if the withdrawal hurts, you can’t die from stopping it like with alcohol. Cocaine used to be in soda, kids drank it. So what are we talking about?

Society wasn’t in chaos when Pepsi gave you that extra pep in your step. Coca Cola put it in their name for crying out loud.

Politicians use drugs to stratify society. I guarantee some of those mansions in the Hollywood Hills have heaps of cocaine, but those aren't the doors they kick in.

Lastly, cost. Peru cocaine costs $1 a gram wholesale. In the United States, $40 a gram is a good deal. Anytime someone can 40x their investment, in a matter of days, people are going to get hurt.

Cocaine isn’t for me. Neither is soda, sugar kills 300,000 to 500,000 Americans annually, cocaine kills about 20,000. But how many people are in prison because of drugs? Roughly 500,000. If you want a safer country, start with the drugs.

Tuesday, June 4, 2019

Not Looking For A Relationship

I’ve heard a lot of people say they won’t get in a relationship because they’re too much work or some other reason.

A relationship should be a net positive. It should propel you forward, not bring you down. 

1 + 1 should equal more than 2. A good relationship has synergy. I’m looking for a relationship but only if this is the case.

Monday, June 3, 2019

Mr. Excuses

Who is that voice that always has an excuse or justification? Or always has to say, “Well not always,” “what if something bad happens?”, “you can work out every day and still get cancer,” or my least favorite, “what if a bus hits you?”

Don’t listen to Mr., Ms. or even Mrs. Excuses. They’re full of crap. They want to keep you hiding, keep you from achieving what you can achieve. Why? I don’t know fully. Partly because the known is comfortable and safe. Our brains haven’t evolved for this level of judgment. They think if we get rejected by the group we’ll be outcasted and killed. When really, that’s when we get to live.

We get to live when we feel emotions. Self-doubt creeps in and sadness seeps out. “Nobody liked my post on social media, how sad.” You want to know what’s sadder? Not posting it in the first place. I’d rather be vulnerable than silent. When Señor Excuses knocks, don’t answer. Keep making progress and if that bus comes at least you’ll know that you’ve been living instead of hiding.

Sunday, June 2, 2019

Strive for Greatness

“You look good.” I’d rather them say “you look great!”

Think about how you feel when you genuinely say that you feel  fine versus when you are able to say that you feel great.

This isn’t a “fake it till you make it” or “act as if mantra,” do the things that will get you what you want.

Some people really are okay being 20 pounds overweight, I’m not. I think acceptance can be used like excuses when it comes to health. I know I have and I don’t want to anymore. I say put the work in and make the change.


Saturday, June 1, 2019

Be Okay to Level Up

If you aren’t okay with this, you’ll never allow yourself to be WYCB. Get out of your own way and get behind yourself.

Moving forward you can be a different, more capable person. If change is coming anyway, why not be better?