Back to the bad questions. I feel like diving into this one a little deeper. This and what do you do irk me the most. I think it’s because we don’t want the truth most of the time. We ask in a superficial way. We expect “good” or “fine.” When someone responds too negatively or too positively, the asker is usually thrown for an uncomfortable loop.
I don’t like playing the semantics card on this one too regularly but I definitely go hardcore honest with my answer. I can say, “How am I? Well, I am because my parents had me and I have stayed alive this long.” That’s how I am, after all, but I know it’s not what they mean. There’s a word for people like that which I can’t think of at the moment. Honestly responding to this question though is great. Because I get to see who I’m dealing with. Did they ask superficially or with genuine interest?
I also tend to ask back a different question. I like “How’s your happiness?” I’m sure I’ll find another good question eventually but right now it’s good. People tilt their heads, blink quickly and respond. I like the conversation much more too. I’m sure others won’t copy my style, not yet. But it’s not about that, it’s about progress, slowly moving the needle to a more open, and accepted dialogue.