Tuesday, April 16, 2019

Who Are You Doing it For?

First, define “it.”

Me losing body fat.

I’m doing it for me and for others maybe. But mostly, it helps me feel that I’m moving in the right direction, that I’m doing good. I like being a role model, but even if nobody follows my lead, I’ll still be in a healthier place because of my actions.

I’ve seen some people change for their children, reading more books or going back to school, to be a good example.

Whatever works for you, as long as it actually works.

Monday, April 15, 2019

Habits Over Goals

I see what you’re doing, I see what you’ll get.

If I know the direction you’re walking in I can tell you where you’ll end up.

Hit a goal, you’re done. Then what? I’ve done this. As soon as I start getting definition on my abs, the self-sabotage kicks in.

The new habit is going to the gym every day and eating under 1500 calories less one bonus meal a week and one All You Can Eat day a month. I may even forego my AYCE day, but we’ll see about that. I’m focusing on creating habits that will eventually lead to where I want to be and keep me there.

Diets don’t work because they’re temporary. Lifestyle changes work if they stick.

Sunday, April 14, 2019

Good Habits

What are they? Generally, good habits are what everyone can agree on. Eating right, going to the gym, telling the truth, sleeping 7-8 hours a night, personal hygiene, good manners, etc.

List your own.

What’s keeping you from these?

It’s usually that we’re comfortable. We’re okay with where we’re at. Until you admit to yourself that you don’t like where you’re at, you can’t leave that place.

You have to want to change. Focus on the solution. The solution is action. If you keep doing the right things, you’ll probably get to the solution. Nothing is guaranteed, but the likelihood of working out every day leading you to become a healthier person is high. The likelihood of meditating every day leading to a calmer mind is high. The likelihood of doing nothing and getting nothing is high. Do the things.

Saturday, April 13, 2019

Fuck Normal

Normal is being 30 pounds overweight. Normal is disliking your job. Normal is divorcing your spouse. Fuck normal.

Normal is $50k a year. Normal is $15k of credit card debt. Normal is retiring at 60. Fuck normal.

Normal is never going for it. Normal is watching more television than you exercise. Normal is the norm. Fuck the norm.

Friday, April 12, 2019

20 Minute Blog Post

This post is about action.

Whatever you are working on, take this time to do 15 minutes or more to work on it. It’s interesting that we can spend 20 minutes listening to a podcast, reading something or watching an episode of a show, but when it comes to the things that we know we should be doing we falter.

Do 15 minutes of work.

Welcome back, I just want you to feel your feelings for a second.
It’s the daily actions we take that will ultimately create our lives.

What you may tell yourself you don’t have time to take, you seem to have the time to give.

Thursday, April 11, 2019

When Will You Fight?

A loved one is dying. They’re close, it could be weeks or months. My family members say, “They’re a  fighter.” I thought, well when will you fight?

Do you plan on fighting when you’re near death, lungs full of tar, 50 pounds of body fat slowing your heart down? Will you fight then? Or will you fight now?

I don’t know what tomorrow will bring, but I know today I’m fighting.

I’m staying in my 1,500-2,000 calorie range until I get rid of more of this body fat. I’m staying away from junk food, alcohol, and cigarettes. I don’t want to be laid up, in pain, because I didn’t fight when the time was right.

A neighbor of mine died some time ago, he was in his 80s but the day before he died he was building a fence. An old man, building a fence, passed away in his sleep the next day. No pain, no suffering, no fighting.

I get to choose my actions today, so I’ll choose to do the things that get me closer to what I want.

Wednesday, April 10, 2019

4/10/2019 Wednesday Weekly

Another week down.
Good - Gym every day. Writing goals were hit. Read The Effective Executive. ⅔ of the way done with The Fountainhead. Chipping away at Better than Before and just started The One Thing. Tracked my time for the whole week in six-minute increments, the results were amazing. Zero TV time, I’m proud of that. I read a whole lot as well.

Bad - Tracking calories and although I’m staying in the 1500-2000 range, I’ve had a bit more sugar than I should so I’ll work on that.

Ugly - No movement on the book publishing. My schedule failed me. I’m going to now spend time on why that’s happening and have a feeling it has to do with purpose.

Tuesday, April 9, 2019

Telling The Future

I’ll see what you’re doing and I’ll tell you what’s coming. We can all look at someone’s actions and have a good idea of where those actions will take them. Sometimes, this superpower which we so masterfully wield on others seems to fail on ourselves.

I know where I’m going because I’ve been honest with myself. Denial is different than obliviousness because it means the person is at least aware of what’s going on. Once you can honestly look at your situation and the actions you’re taking, you too will be able to tell the future. Not on things like winning the lottery, but definitely losing at the lottery. The fact is, almost everyone loses, you’ll likely lose if you play.

What about things like health? Well, what does your day look like? Is there some exercise in there and a refusal to consume junk food regularly? If so, you’re probably going to be okay. You can even get crazy with it and set goals, track calories or hire a personal trainer.

Work? Well, how much enthusiasm do you bring to your work? Do you hate it or love it? I’ve never seen anyone get fired that was the best, they usually get promoted, less politics of course. What else? I don’t know, think of your own examples, what actions lead to what results?

Do the things you should to get what you want.

Disclaimer: Calamity happens. It’s rare, but it’s still a thing. It’s up to you how you want to act because of it. Mr. Excuses loves to follow when the "What Ifs" show up.

Sunday, April 7, 2019

Waiting To Speak

Whenever someone tells me something my brain immediately retrieves relevant information, similar experiences and wants to talk about it.

Consciously I have to tell myself to be quiet. Two ears one mouth.

When someone is speaking we should be listening, not preparing to speak. This seems harder when I’m with people I feel comfortable with or believe I know well. With a stranger, I’m more careful with my words. With family, it seems like I’m thinking as I speak, which is often the case.

Awareness of this is the first step to being a better communicator. Listen, ponder, respond. Not always, but more frequently, and with practice.

Friday, April 5, 2019

Parkinson’s Law

Parkinson's law is the adage that "work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion". It is sometimes applied to the growth of bureaucracy in an organization.

Get your stuff done.

At work, we get paid for eight hours but we’re probably only working four. Some of us get away with doing much less than that too.

If you give yourself a month to do something that takes a day, who benefits? Give yourself a due date that reflects the magnitude of what you’re accomplishing and how long it takes to do it.

“Lose five pounds,” can be done in a month, 3500 calories per pound of fat times 5 is 17,500 calories you’re going to have to either burn or avoid. You can lose five pounds in a weekend of clean eating, but that's mostly going to be water weight, to lose fat you have to go a step further.

The point is if you want to get things done stop giving yourself forever to do them.

Wednesday, April 3, 2019

4/3/2019 Wednesday Weekly

Another week down.
Good: I hit the gym every day. I tracked my time and the truth was eye-opening. I read four books. 168 Hours. Deep Work. The Four Hour Work Week. What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast. Five hours of podcasts and hit my daily targets of 300 words for my books and 150 words for my blog. A good week overall, spent time with family as well.

Bad - I watched 17 hours of TV. That’s a lot of South Park. However, I took it off the DVR and that won’t be happening again next week.

Ugly - no progress in publishing an ebook. I don’t know what’s slowing me down or holding me back. I just get a case of the fuck its whenever it’s time to dive into it. I’ve scheduled some time for next week, a lot of progress will be had.

- Arturo Gómez Tagle

Tuesday, April 2, 2019

Thank You From 2029

Start a daily habit that you’ll be happy to do 10 years from now. What if you did this today? It can be as simple as taking one mindful breath or as complicated as learning a little bit of rocket science. We largely become the person that we make actions toward becoming. Calamity happens, sure, but if you keep making excuses, you’ll keep getting what excuses are worth.

The possibilities are endless, I implore you to take a step in a worthwhile direction today.

Sunday, March 31, 2019

Actions Come From Thoughts

I’m not the type of person that drinks soda. They don’t tempt me. I like exercising every day. I don’t have days where I don’t feel like working out. I track all of my calories. Even when I’m ashamed, I put them down in my MyFitnessPal.

The mental model you have for yourself is more important than you may know. When you tell yourself, “I’m the type of person that ______.” Your body and mind come into alignment and more often than not you do or don’t do something.

Think about cocaine, maybe 2% of Americans do it recreationally, so chances are, you don’t. Even if someone offered it to you, you’d say no and that would be it. Why? Because you don’t do cocaine. Soda? I don’t do soda or cocaine for reference. I have, and as a Public Service Announcement, I don’t recommend anyone starting either one.

When someone offers you cake, candy or whatever, you can start saying, “I don’t eat _____,” if you want. You can even try it out and play with the details. I don’t have more than 500 calories from added sugars a week so I can be a little flexible with my ice cream or candy consumption but certain things, like sweetened beverages, are almost always going to be a no for me.

Friday, March 29, 2019

Doing The Things

What if you did what you know you should be doing? For some people going to work, coming home, watching TV until bedtime during the week is fine. Going out on weekends, spending time and money on leisure is what they enjoy. Wonderful.

Too often I come off sounding judgmental and arrogant. I’m aware and working on it, but I get it.

First of all, we all go through phases, I loved through that and I wouldn’t want to take it away from anyone either. Having fun is fun. If anyone wants to rain on your parade, don’t let them. Even while you’re doing this you can still be doing the things to become somewhat of a better person.

The average daily commute is 52 minutes, about four hours a week. Even the longest audiobook I’ve listened to recently was only 23 hours, thanks Jen Sincero! So at that rate, you can listen to 10 books a year. Will this solve all of your life’s problems? Yes. Okay, clearly it won’t, it may not even solve any, but that’s only if you don’t apply the knowledge.

You can lead a horse to water and you can give a person a book. You can’t make one drink and you can’t make the other think.

Even if time is the issue, a lot of stuff doesn’t require time but effort. Losing fat doesn’t take any extra time, it takes the will to say, no more booze, sugar, or junk food. If you change your mental model then it won’t even take that much will power. Who you tell yourself you are is who you end up being.

Wednesday, March 27, 2019

3/27/2019 Wednesday Weekly

Another week down. Progress has begun on learning how to publish ebooks. That’s a positive but there seems to be a little more than expected. I’ve begun to reread The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss and I’m so glad I did. If you’ve never read it, read it. I’m sure you can find it free online somewhere. My writing, 150 words per day for posts and 300 words for books is happening.

Consistency is key.

Currently reading 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think by Laura Vanderkam and started tracking my time. If any of you have ever tracked your time, I wish you would have told me about it. I’m only three days into it and will probably stop after a week, but it has been keeping me laser focused. I have a color-coded system and if anyone wants to see how I’m doing it feel free to reach out.

- Arturo Gómez Tagle

Tuesday, March 26, 2019

Being Your Current Best

You can’t go back in time. A close, loved one was a little down recently telling me how they did everything wrong and how certain things were their fault. Of course, they didn’t do everything wrong, but they definitely did some stuff wrong.

By focusing on those things, by focusing on the negative we lose sight of the positive. So we did a quick list, the end tally was 3 things wrong, 13 things right. Of course, we could have gone further with the positives but I think I made my point.

They tried to bring up that they did their best, but I quickly dismantled that argument. When we look back and live in the past too much we lose sight of the present. It’s a form of hiding from reality. While they were worried about doing their best 20 years ago, what about doing your best right now?

This person realized the truth, that they don’t want to do their best. It’s one thing if you don’t know and you’re oblivious. It’s another if you do know, and refuse to do anything about it, denial.

In order to become Who You Could Be (WYCB), you have to be WYCB every day. Choosing the higher of the two roads, helping the person in need, not enabling someone else, reading the book, doing the things. We all have different things that we know we should be doing.

Sunday, March 24, 2019

Do What You Should

Ask yourself, “what should I be doing?” Often times the last thing you want to do is exactly what you should be doing. What if you did what you knew you should be doing? How would your life transform and how quickly would that happen?

Different areas change quicker than others. Weight is interesting, in three days you start to notice it, in three weeks people close to you notice it and in three months acquaintances will notice it. Maybe this isn’t always true, but it has stuck with me since I heard it.

When it comes to learning something or increasing your skills, what should you do? Something, nothing? Probably not nothing. So then what? You probably know. If you keep doing what you should, you'll become Who You Could Be.

Friday, March 22, 2019

Your Best?

We say we did our best, even when we didn’t We hardly ever do our best and we know it.
I’m going to ask you to take the deepest breath you can after the following sentence. This is an exercise in doing your best. Breathe in as much as you can and then quickly read the next sentence.

Breathe in a little more. If you were able to breathe in just a little bit more, what gives? How was there still room? Because you didn’t go all out, you didn’t do your best, you did enough. Ask someone else to do this exercise, I bet they’ll have room for a little more air too.

Where else in your life are you holding back? Even if it’s just a little bit, compounding decisions make a big difference over time. 50 extra calories a day is 18,520 calories a year, about 5 pounds of extra fat. 5 years out of high school, maybe that's where the 25 pounds came from.

The next time you say, “I did my best,” mean it.

Wednesday, March 20, 2019

3/20/2019 Wednesday Weekly

Another week down. Minus not getting any progress on learning how to publish ebooks done, it’s been a great week. I hit my daily targets and my nutrition has been acceptable. One a Day to Learn About Money is coming along faster than expected, money isn’t that complicated. I just listened to Tony Robbins’ new book, and it was about 8-10 hours. No reason for all that and there was nothing about budgeting or debt. To summarize it in half a sentence, invest for the future in an index fund, be emotionless.

Also read the Happiness Advantage, a great read. Lots of nuggets of wisdom in there. Your mindset and outlook matter more than what happens. If something isn’t going to matter in a year, why stress over it today? Handle it and move on. Also, happiness comes before success, not the other way around, act accordingly.

My blog posts are currently on a personal improvement kick, we’ll see where that goes.

-Arturo Gómez Tagle

Tuesday, March 19, 2019

Who You Could Be (WYCB)

What if you did what you knew you should do, today, tomorrow, forever. Who would you become? You’d become, Who You Could be, WYCB for short.

“Someone once told me the definition of hell; on your last day on earth, the person you could have become will meet the person you became.” - Anonymous

In my book, One Day to Change Your Life, I touch on this concept. WYCB is your best self if you made the best decisions with the information you had at the time at the end of some time period. Bill Gates has said, “Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” We have to take a long term approach to life. Maybe in one year you can’t lose all of the weight you want, or get the job you want, or reach the level of success you want. But, you can lose 3-5 pounds a month if not more, you can start training or school for that job, and you can definitely start strategizing on how to achieve those goals of yours if not make some steps toward them.

Imagine who you could be after 20 years of good decisions.

You make decisions in your life every day, you either make good decions, bad, or both. You probably know what’s best, unless you're oblivious to your situation or in denial.

Denial is manageable because at least you know what you should or could be doing. Obliviousness though, well that’s a scary place to be. When you’re oblivious of your predicament you can’t even see the issue so how could you possibly resolve it? This is where self-reflection and honest conversations with people you trust come into play. If you think you’re totally fine, you eat healthily, sleep 7-9 hours a night, don’t have any unhealthy habits, wonderful. If not, do the next right thing. When you stumble, if you stumble, get up and keep going. Nobody is perfect, but that’s not an excuse to not try your best.

Sunday, March 17, 2019

Consumption vs. Construction

Whether you like it or not, what you do today will shape tomorrow and with that, the rest of your life. If you decided to cut your arm off today, that would be it, for the rest of your life, you’d no longer have that arm. Now, let’s not be so dramatic. What about exercise, eating better, drinking less? Fine, even less dramatic, what about calling a loved one just to hear their voice? Okay, still less, what about flossing? Still? One deep breath.

What you do today determines what you will be able to do tomorrow. It starts with the first step, in this case, the first breath. Maybe you can’t meditate for one minute, but you can meditate for one breath. Maybe you can’t call a loved one, but you can send a text. Maybe you can’t change your diet overnight, but you can throw away that last bite of cake. We do as much as we feel comfortable doing, then for some reason, call it our best.

Only you know what your best is today, if you do it, you’ll set yourself up for the best tomorrow and therefore, the rest of your life. We only have the moment right in front of us, act accordingly.

Friday, March 15, 2019

Today Controls Tomorrow

Whether you like it or not, what you do today will shape tomorrow and with that, the rest of your life. If you decided to cut your arm off today, that would be it, the for rest of your life, you’d no longer have that arm. Now, let’s not be so dramatic. What about exercise, eating better, drinking less? Fine, even less dramatic, what about calling a loved one just to hear their voice? Okay, still less, what about flossing? Still? One deep breath.

What you do today determines what you will be able to do tomorrow. It starts with the first step, in this case, the first breath. Maybe you can’t meditate for one minute, but you can meditate for one breath. Maybe you can’t call a loved one, but you can send a text. Maybe you can’t change your diet overnight, but you can throw away that last bite of cake. We do as much as we feel comfortable doing, then for some reason, call it our best.

Only you know what your best is today, if you do it, you’ll set yourself up for the best tomorrow and therefore, the rest of your life. We only have the moment right in front of us, act accordingly.

Thursday, March 14, 2019

Why A Blog?

It's good to share what we've learned with the world and this is a way to do it. I want people to better themselves and live easier, more meaningful lives. If we all better ourselves,  we'd live in a better world. I've enjoyed reading personal development books since I found out about them in my late teens. I still regularly recommend Tim Ferriss's, The Four Hour Work Week and Robert Kiyosaki's, Rich Dad Poor Dad. I want to share these things and the things I continue to learn because it will help people. Not every person, but some.

I'm working on many things right now such as writing, researching, political activism and plan to do a lot more. This is a great way for me to document what's going on and share what I learn and create.

I plan on continuing to write One Day Books, these are eBooks that let you make the change promised on the cover in a day. I also have other books that I will eventually get to. Of all of the books I've read, I usually wish they'd have more focus, applicable knowledge and not be so long or repetitive. I want to deliver actionable exercises for meaningful problems. I will be uploading my books to this website as I learn how to publish them digitally and they'll be free. Amazon won't let me post books for free, so on their site, they'll be priced as low as they allow. There will be no paper books available. I can't justify killing trees or using energy to deliver something that can be read digitally. I will also make them available in audio format as well, as soon as I can.

I will be making a new podcast, The Arturo GT Show, to share and provoke thoughts. People can't usually read on the go, so having information available in an audio format is convenient and helpful. They'll be eight minutes so that you can play it at 1.5x speed and be done in five minutes. A lot of podcasts I listen to are much longer, but in a pinch, I always look for the 5-10 minute podcast to get some quick knowledge in. I'll aim for one episode per week but they may come out a little more or less frequently depending on life and inspiration, I only want to release quality material.

As far as blog posts, I'll post here when I have something good to share, I don't want to promise daily or even weekly, but we'll see how it goes it might end up being daily but I promise it won't ever be more than one post per day.

My purpose in life is to make mine and the lives of others, easier. I'll expand more on this in a blog post, but after much reflection, I think that's it.

Feel free to Donate or share my work with people. I'm a strong believer in making knowledge as free as possible so that it can spread easily. If you get any value, inspiration, wisdom or motivation out of what I share then please contribute what you can, it all helps. Sharing is also great, the more people being productive, happy and healthy, the better the world will be.

-Arturo Gómez Tagle

Wednesday, March 13, 2019

3/13/2019 Wednesday Weekly

Another week down. My writing is coming along, 300 words for a book and 150 words for my posts every day. I finished One Day to Lose the Fat, just need final touches and people to read it and give me feedback. Still working on getting my books published electronically and posted online, we’re weeks away, not months, that’s as specific as I can be right now. Blog posts will be coming shortly. I’ve decided to create an 8 or so minute long podcast as well because I like the idea of having 5 minute long audio clips out there when listened to at 1.5x speed. I didn’t have a good idea of what subjects to cover for the podcast however, with the suggestion from my younger brother, Michael, I’ll be using the blog posts as inspiration. Each blog post will have its own short podcast to expand on what I've written. Thanks, Michael. The podcasts may take a little more time to create and post, thanks for your patience.

-Arturo Gómez Tagle