Tuesday, September 24, 2019

Running Red Lights

What happens when most people walk up to a red light?

They look left, look right, no cars coming, they walk. 

Can a car make it across the street faster than a person? Probably. 

So why do we all wait for the light to change, when we’re driving but almost never when walking?

My proposal is simple. Treat red lights as stop signs unless there’s a sign that says no turn on red (blind corners usually) or a new sign that's for this specific purpose.
If 200,000,000 cars spent even a minute less on US roads per day imagine what that would do to decrease both pollution and traffic.

Monday, September 23, 2019

The Perfect Day

Read a little. Create a little. Eat well. 

Sleep a lot. Think a lot. Love a lot. 

Exercise. Meditate. Laugh. 

I don’t know what your list is, or even if you’ve ever made one. Making one is definitely worth the couple of minutes that it’ll take. 

Sunday, September 22, 2019

Is It All In Your Head?

Playing the victim feels good sometimes. Evolution has done a lot in helping us manipulate others to our benefit. Our victimhood becomes a part of our identity. Cops broke my collarbone almost ten years ago so now that affects how I see all cops.

What happens if I say, I forgive those cops and want to move on? Does a little part of me die? Yes.

The part that dies is the part that found comfort in being a victim. It’s a blanket I’d probably be best served to give up.

Who You Could Be depends on your actions more than anything, are you making excuses or solutions?

Saturday, September 21, 2019

Massive Action Matters

I guess. But I like small actions too. I’d rather see some action than no action.

Nothing comes from nothing. Except for the universe maybe. But besides that, what you do will largely determine what you get.

I think we’re all different, some of us do really well changing massively and taking those actions. Others don’t. Take what works, and leave the rest.

Friday, September 20, 2019

Busy or Building?

We have a list, we do the list, a year passes and we haven’t reached our goals.

How does this happen?

We put action on a pedestal and lose track of the bigger picture.

Success usually isn’t accidental. If you plan on achieving, make sure that your actions are in line with your goals and not just what makes you feel productive today.

Thursday, September 19, 2019

Acknowledge The Wins

Life is good if you stop to acknowledge it. Most people have way more good than bad in their life. But when you turn on the news show of your life, it’s easy to remember the bad and overlook the good. 

A good exercise to do is think back to five times you could have made worse decisions and how terrible your life would be if that had happened. But it didn’t, so even if you’re down, you’re not out. Keep making good decisions, one after another. 

Wednesday, September 18, 2019


If you’re happy alone why settle for anything less than happiness? Constant fighting seems like a bad life. 

I think millennials are going to marry less often but stay married for a longer time and divorce rates will drop. Is it better? I think so. I’d rather see a world full of people that stay together for love rather than obligation. 

What about the lonely people? I don’t know, is it more lonely to be alone or with someone that you’ve lost connection with years ago?

Tuesday, September 17, 2019

Exercise and Eating Better

For yourself, for the people that care about you, and for the people you care for. Exercise and eat better. 

When will you fight? 

I’m not saying be perfect or that anyone is. A necessary step in reversing a problem habit is to stop doing the behavior. If you don’t exercise, going from zero to once a week is mathematically infinite times more exercise. A 500 calorie a day habit is one pound of fat per week. The body is complex and you probably won’t lose 50 lbs in a year from cutting that out but it’ll probably be at least 40. 

In a years time a year will go by no matter what, so what will you do along the way? Hit the gym 50 times or zero? Eat that junk food everyday or leave it to once a week? Your life, your call. 

Monday, September 16, 2019

No Binge Rule

No matter what it is. No more than one hour per day if it isn’t making money, bringing you closer to someone or teaching you something. 

No matter what food, no more than 400 calories from it a day. 

No matter what, no binging. 

I haven’t been perfect at this but this has helped tremendously. 

Sunday, September 15, 2019

Media Bias

The media we consume, whether it be personal media like facebook posts or corporate media like news shows will have a bias. Even if it’s as benign as the creator wanting us to feel a certain way about them, it’s there. 

When we see expensive to produce media, we have to think, “What are they trying to get out of it?” More than likely, it’s money, but it’s not a direct transaction so they need to get sponsors or push an agenda that enriches the owners. These sponsors want more viewers. Corporate media does their best to cover and create controversy so that we tune in. Especially if that controversy lines their pockets by making us purchase things or fund certain industries. 

War gets people tuning in, so what do you think corporate media wants? More or less of it? What about the fact that the people that own media companies also have large stakes in weapons companies? 

Maybe we shouldn’t believe every narrative, from either side. Maybe if we follow the money a much darker truth will emerge.

Saturday, September 14, 2019

Playing The Victim

I read a post that said, “XYZ individuals are so undervalued.”

My knee jerk reaction was to ask, “By who?”

Making up a statement with zero supporting evidence and then including yourself as a member of that group disrespects real victims.

There are people that will be persecuted today. People that will be killed for the way they were born today. People that will be undervalued simply because they were born. Before you speak, post, publish or hit send, think of the message you’re spreading. Is it true? Is it good? Is it necessary?

Friday, September 13, 2019

Keeping It Off

If I’m telling someone you have to find out what works for you, when trying to help them better themselves they probably have to do something new.

Let’s talk about losing weight. If someone has lost weight before then losing weight isn’t the problem, keeping it off is. When it comes to keeping the weight off, they might not know what works.

So, they have to seek outside help. Maybe it’s embarrassing. But really, asking for help or seeking it is one of the most human things we can do. You have to change what you’re doing to change what you’re getting.

Thursday, September 12, 2019

Equality vs. Fairness

Equal: regarding or affecting all objects in the same way. 
Fair: marked by impartiality and honesty : free from self-interest, prejudice, or favoritism. 

Pretty close synonyms right?

To treat people equally doesn’t mean you’re treating them fairly. You can treat people horribly and as long as you’re consistent, that’s equality. 

Fairness therefore, is a better goal, especially when some laws we have and themselves unfair. 

Wednesday, September 11, 2019


I felt like I was going to be lonely at an event where at least a handful of people I know were going to be. What does that mean?

I felt like I’d be awkward and distant. I chose not to go. I was unsure how to feel the day of, the next day regret settled in. I don’t know why I didn’t go, it was hot, so that’s an easy excuse. It was an hour away, another convenient excuse. 

I don’t think they’re good enough reasons. I told a friend that I’d be there and I wasn’t. So I lied. I owed them an apology and gave them one. 

Being dependable is something I want to be. Maybe it means saying no from the beginning more often. But maybe it means I should go to that event regardless of how I currently feel.  Because nine times out of ten, I’m glad I went instead of stayed. 

Tuesday, September 10, 2019

No Second Chances

Look to your past and see where second chances have worked out. Critique your own judgment.

Chances are that giving second chances hasn’t worked out that well. Repeating the same behavior and expecting different results is what?

Monday, September 9, 2019


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Sunday, September 8, 2019

Nobody Is Holding You Back

Are there arms around you? No. Is someone actively sabotaging your efforts? No. Are they talking shit? That’s different.

They’re using their words to disagree with you or to pass judgment on you. Why give them power? If you need someone else’s approval to be happy you’ve already lost. If you keep talking about a struggle that doesn’t seem to exist, you lost. Who benefits when we give power to a seemingly nonexistent problem?

Saturday, September 7, 2019

Regulation Changes People

You say everyone deserves a living wage. Well, not everyone needs to live in an expensive city. Not everyone needs a car, ten pairs of shoes, a $1,000 phone or a wardrobe that looks like a department store clothing rack.

When you make other people do what you want it limits potential. The person that would have loved to work for $7 an hour can’t, the owner who could have paid $7 an hour can’t pay $15. What happens? You’re seeing what happens. Small stores close, big stores close. Businesses set up with less employees boom.

Even though I support a $15 minimum wage, I also support the right to waive that, when I was 14 making $6 an hour working for a small business (completely illegal), it shaped who I am. If regulation would have gotten in the middle of that, I definitely wouldn’t be who I am today.

Friday, September 6, 2019

Always Be Building

One good decision after another builds resiliency.

One bad decision after another will get you pretty quickly to the gutter.

Imagine if you kept doing what you knew you should be doing. That’s how you build a great life.

Becoming Who You Could Be is all about your actions, choose wisely.

Thursday, September 5, 2019

Don’t Say Anything Dumb

Easier said than done. Maybe. Don’t we get to think before we speak? If we make our mind up to not say anything dumb, then we’ll do a much better job at it. I’m not saying you’ll be perfect, but better. 

Before words, come thoughts. How do we stop thinking dumb things? I’ll let you know if I find out. 

Wednesday, September 4, 2019

40 Hours of Waste

Any “work” that is not advancing you toward the professional life you want should not count as work. It is waste. You have bills, sure, but we often times fool ourselves into justifying behavior  that we really don’t want to be doing. If happiness is the goal, and you’re unhappy in your situation, what’s likely to change first? You or the situation? 

We each have 168 hours per week. About 100 are taken for work and sleep. Leaving you about 50 hours to do as you desire. 

How can someone manage s million dollar business in their time and others can’t seem to get $500 saved? Wasting time is easy, usually the easy thing to do is the wrong thing to do. 

Tuesday, September 3, 2019

Ideas spread

One reason that ideas spread is that people like telling other people stuff that they might not know. It can be a nice little ego boost. Who doesn’t like feeling smart?

If you have an idea that you want to spread, tell people and keep telling people, if nobody repeats it, well maybe the idea doesn’t fit your audience. If it does spread, it doesn’t mean you’re prolific, it means that you found a suitable audience. 

Monday, September 2, 2019

Unfair Judgment

If you unfairly judge people negatively that are poor then you’re a bad person. Here’s the thing, the world has enough unfairly judgmental jerks. I don’t want them near me and will do my best to not be one. I qualified judgmental with the word unfairly because sometimes you are justified to judge, say this person is poor because they did something unethical, well, that’s when judgmental feelings are justified. However, judging someone based on who they are and not what they do or have done  is always a non-starter for me. 

Sunday, September 1, 2019

Weight Problems

This is for people struggling with their weight or even worse, have given up on it all together. I want you to write three pages.

One page on why you think it’s okay to keep junk food in your life. 

One page on why you are okay with leading by poor example. 

One page on why you’re okay with cutting your life short and the toll that will take on those that love you. 

I don’t know how to go up to a stranger and ask if they need help. But I can broadcast it. Reach out, if not to me to someone that loves you. Get the help you need. 

It’s not that I’m down almost 40 pounds since last December, it’s that nobody ever said, “Hey, I love you enough to say your weight and activity levels aren’t healthy. Do something about it.”

More important or at least just as is your activity level. Even if you’re bigger than you want to be, starting exercise, 3-4 hours a week is infinitely better than nothing. 

Saturday, August 31, 2019

Doing Your Best

Means you can’t be doing any better. I hope doing my best will happen someday in things that matter. I think of my workouts, I know I can do another set or another rep, but is that actually better? I know what I’m doing is working, the weight I’m pulling or pushing keeps increasing and my reps do too. But what’s the goal?

Best is possible, but best could mean death. If I kept going and going and going, eventually rhabdomyolysis can set in and without treatment, lead to kidney failure and then death. I think I’ll stick to the 3 near failure sets of 8 or so exercises, every other day for the time being. Is it my “best”? No. Am I getting stronger and healthier? Yes.

Think about your actions in regards to the important stuff, physical health, emotional well being, family, relationships, and finances. Can you do better?

Friday, August 30, 2019

On Being Right

Not “who’s right?” but, “what’s right?” Which matters more?

When talking to someone and trying to convince them of something, what matters is that they agree with the idea, not the person. 

Often times people will agree with you to shut you up. What the goal of persuasion should be then is that the idea itself has to be confirmed. 

If you get them to say THAT is right instead of YOU are right, you’re on a better path to seeing a change occur. 

Thursday, August 29, 2019

The Next Big Thing

What is it going to be?

Recently we had the internet. Then we had smart phones. Finally social media and online shopping. 

So what’s next? Robots and automation? Or is it Solar and wind power creating free energy for the masses? Lab grown food? I don’t know. What I do know though, is that it isn’t watching 40 hours of Netflix a week. It isn’t stuffing my face with junk food everyday. It isn’t so many things. 

The next big thing is going to be things, pick something in an area that makes sense and go for it. Or not, the world will accept another customer as well. 

Wednesday, August 28, 2019

What Would You Say?

If you got in a time machine and went forward 10 years into the future, what would you tell yourself?

This scenario is often told in the reverse, but I’ve never heard it proposed this way. 

I don’t know but I think it’s a good exercise.

Arturo, I hope you’re still going to the gym every other day. I hope you’re still writing. I want you to know that no matter what happens, as long as you do the right thing you’ll be okay. I don’t know how much you’re talking to your family but let them know that you love them more often. 

Tuesday, August 27, 2019

Try And Try Again

You tried and failed. Are you done?

You tried and succeeded. Are you done?

If success doesn’t end the pursuit then why do we so often let failure stop us?

Monday, August 26, 2019


If someone’s successful and they say they’re lucky, listen to them. Their humility will lead you down a better path than anyone claiming that they’re self made. 

“Luck is when preparation meets opportunity,” maybe, or you’re born into money. I don’t like the way people discount luck. If you’re reading this, you’re luckier than those who won’t. 

How do you capitalize on luck? Guts. 

When that opportunity comes, even if you’re not prepared, if you feel like you can make it happen, do so. My brother and I had no business getting a $519k loan back in 2010, but we did, and we sold the house and it worked out well. I’m not saying bet the house on black or red, I’m saying bet on yourself. As long as you can live with the worst case scenario more than you can with the idea of not going for it, go for it. 

Sunday, August 25, 2019

Education vs. Skills

People say that we need a college-educated populace. Why? I mean it sounds good. It sounds wonderful, but it’s not true. I argue that we need a skilled populace much more than an educated one.

What good is a degree in whatever if you can’t use it to create value in this world? What’s worse is that taxpayers are subsidizing these loans with federal guarantees and now there’s talk of taxpayer funded college. It’s madness.

If you want to learn something, you have the Information Superhighway at your fingertips. If you want to spend $40,000 learning something, you better make sure that it’s a good investment and don’t take the debt on if it isn’t.

Saturday, August 24, 2019

Students Loans

How do I know that forgiving student loans is a bad idea?

If college was such a good investment, then student loans wouldn’t be a problem. Everyone would be gainfully employed, making their payments and the world would be better for it.

The world is not better for it.

The fact that there’s a student loan problem is telling us that college isn’t the answer.

College used to be affordable, what happened? Federal officials came up with the horrible idea to back loans. Colleges loved it, tons of new students and they all had their money upfront.

Look where it’s gotten us. Overeducated, underemployed and under-skilled.

Friday, August 23, 2019

Monopolies Are Bad

Look at what DMV employees do with their monopoly. If you make people feel unappreciated, upset and powerless then your business should fail. 

It usually does, but thanks to monopoly, it doesn’t. 

What they put people through would never fly in the private sector.  It comes down to one main issue. Power. Whenever power is in play abuse will likely follow. 

If your job has policies that make no sense or you’re tasked to do things that don’t make sense then fix them. Even if you have a monopoly, how hard is it to be a decent human being? 

Thursday, August 22, 2019


Here’s a solution, jail the employers and managers, 1 year per employee.

As long as employers aren’t punished they’ll keep exploiting cheap labor. As long as we do nothing we’re complicit in their exploitation. The federal minimum wage law says very plainly that each employer must pay each of his employees $7.25 an hour. There’s no mention of legal status to work. So where’s the justice? Where’s the equality? Not here. 

I think it comes from the idea that we’ve been fed for so long, that something is better than nothing. Maybe it’s true, but it isn’t legal. I don’t think every law on the books is just or right, but this one is. I think it’s criminally low, but we need a bottom for sure. 

When we allow the most vulnerable to be criminalized and the wealthy to go free we really show what this nation has thus far stood for. 

Maybe my solution is simplistic and naive. But I know one thing for certain, we can do better. 

Wednesday, August 21, 2019


Is it something that everyone should have access to? Yes, but not in its current form. In its current form, it’s largely ineffective. 

Why is it okay to abuse our bodies by ingesting chemicals and food like products until we’re sick? Why should this behavior be subsidized by other people on insurance plans or even by force via taxation?

The problem isn’t healthcare, it’s that we don’t care. We call critics shamers and whistleblowers conspiracy theorists. While preventable deaths outnumber murders by at least ten to one, which do we focus on? 

People say that it’s their choice when it comes to food but have no problem with people being caged for narcotics. I’ve already explained how sugar is a drug. Heart disease kills 600,000 Americans a year. Cocaine kills 14,000. 

As long as healthcare means pills and not lifestyle alterations, what are we really doing?

Tuesday, August 20, 2019

Paying People Less

80% of people hate their jobs. 

What would happen if they got paid more? They might save up and quit. This is why employers will exploit, (pay less than they can), every employee for as long as possible. 

If an employer has someone stuck in the Zombie Loop and living paycheck to paycheck, then why would they ever willingly give that up? They have guaranteed profitable labor. All they have to do is kick back and watch their employees bring in the money. 

Monday, August 19, 2019

What Would You Say?

If you got in a time machine and went forward 10 years into the future, what would you tell yourself?

This scenario is often told in the reverse, but I’ve never heard it proposed this way. 

I don’t know but I think it’s a good exercise.

Arturo, I hope you’re still going to the gym every other day. I hope you’re still writing. I want you to know that no matter what happens, as long as you do the right thing you’ll be okay. I don’t know how much you’re talking to your family but let them know that you love them more often. 

Sunday, August 18, 2019

Is Your Arena Big Enough?

Top 10% of managers make a good living, top 10% of rappers don’t. 

I’d say the top 10% of 1% when it comes to rappers make a living and less than that are rich. So in your life, what arena are you playing in? Is the arena big enough to succeed or do you need to be that top 1% of 1% to really make it? Often times we go into things not understanding just how small the chances are of winning. 

Whatever you plan on doing, make sure you know what odds are stacked against you and more importantly the effort and actions required to overcome them.

Saturday, August 17, 2019

If You Hired Me

If you hired me to be your boss for a day, what would I have you do? What changes would I suggest for you to change in your life that are crystal clear? What should you be doing and why aren't you doing it?

I’m reading Good Strategy Bad Strategy by Richard P. Rumelt and just got a lightbulb moment in Chapter 4. One high level executive asked another, “If we got replaced, what would our replacements do right away? So why aren’t we doing that?”

It made me think, well, I’m the boss or executive of my own life, if I hired someone for a day, what would they say to change? 

The point is, we have to continually strive for better if we’re to be successful and fulfilled. The key is knowing what we should be doing and executing. 

Friday, August 16, 2019

Influencers vs. Influential

Googling those two words will yield completely different results. One shows fashion icons, the other societal and cultural titans.

It’s the difference between your WCW and MLK Jr. Which do you aim to be? Which would you rather follow?

If we want to be greater than our past selves, we must do more of the right things. Who You Could Be is mostly up to you.

Thursday, August 15, 2019

Zombie Loop

What can you do that will provide the most value to the world?

I don’t know exactly what it is for me. But I know what it isn’t.

It isn’t going to work on Monday, to come home, to watch TV, to go to bed, to wake up to repeat this cycle until Friday. Just to have a couple days off, to dread Monday but then repeat the cycle all over again. This is the Zombie Loop.

Wednesday, August 14, 2019


Because I’m not a woman, I have nothing to say in matters regarding women.

Tuesday, August 13, 2019

Minimum Wage

$15 an hour minimum and tie it to inflation so that it goes up 3-5% every year.

If a job can’t sustain life, it shouldn’t be called a job, it should be called for what it is, it isn’t indentured servitude or financial slavery but it’s something. It’s a system of control based on limiting resources. They pay you just enough to maybe need a little debt to get by and so that you’ll keep coming back to work or end up homeless.

Only a percentage of the cost for a product comes from labor, so maybe prices will go up, but it won’t be more than the raise in your wages. WIll some jobs go away? I hope so. Will more jobs come in to fill the gap because of people’s increased spending power? Most definitely.

Monday, August 12, 2019

Our Military

We spend the most, so we should have the best right?

The US Government pulls in about $3.6T in tax revenue and spend about $700B of that on the military. It’s about 20%. Imagine taking 20% of your paycheck and buying guns with it.

I’m not a general, I’ve never fought a war but I do know that $700B is a lot of money.

Do we need it? I don’t think so. We have nukes. We’re not going to invade any country for their land so why do we need such a large standing army? About 1.4M personnel. That’s kind of crazy too, 0.33% of our population gets 20% of our tax revenue. Sure, money goes to buying bombs and stuff but it all ends up in their hands.

As with a lot of things, we need to do better.

Sunday, August 11, 2019

The US Economy

Do you have six months of your monthly expenses in your bank account? Most Americans don’t. Actually, most Americans are living paycheck to paycheck. What happens when that paycheck disappears?

The news says the economy is great, that employment is at record highs. There are 130 million full-time workers and 230M working-age adults. But sure, record-level unemployment is a thing.

We need to stop and ask who is telling us a story before we believe it at face value. I don’t know when the next recession is coming but I do know that when jobs start getting cut it’s going to be a domino effect like we’ve never seen.

Saturday, August 10, 2019


60 years ago laws were passed so that we could not be discriminated against based on race for certain things. Just this year Facebook had to pay a fine for racial discrimination for the way they let people advertise housing.

We can’t all get along. Most of us can, no doubt, probably 99% of people hold no racial prejudice that would cause them to get violent.

But it’s not just vocalized racism that affects us. It’s the judge giving people of color longer sentences than their European American counterparts for the same crime. It’s the hiring manager giving the entry-level job to the person that looks most like them. It’s 45 presidents, and only one being of color. It’s doctors not giving minorities the same level of care than others.

Everyone has the right to feel however they want to feel, but when it turns into actions that are harming others, we need to do better. 

Friday, August 9, 2019

Public Transportation

The chicken or the egg?

Ridesharing companies understood that they needed drivers on the road before anyone would use their app.

Why can’t city and transportation planners see that we need more frequent buses for there to be more riders?

Maybe because there's no incentive to actually be better at their job. If a year goes by and management can't show that they're getting drivers to switch over to the bus system at an acceptable rate, we should fire them. We're going to keep getting what we're allowing. Traffic and pollution will only get worse unless those who are supposed to be responsible do their job.

Thursday, August 8, 2019


Pollution is a big problem. Almost everything we consume goes through a manufacturing process and those processes create waste. This is one of the main reasons that I’ve undertaken the practice of minimalism.

Since the beginning of the year, I have purchased two items from Goodwill and nothing else besides food.

Fashion is one of the largest polluters in the world. Look it up if you didn’t know and brace yourself.

Meat is another terrible polluter. I’m not a vegetarian and I probably will never be but my beef consumption is way down, maybe a pound per month.

Driving, I’m blessed to not have a job that requires it or a family that needs chauffeuring, if I need a car, I’ll rent one. Public transportation isn’t great and I think there is a lot of room for improvement.

Wednesday, August 7, 2019

Climate Change

People that have little motivation to lie say it is.
People with an enormous motivation to lie say it isn’t.

Who should we believe?

I’m going to believe that releasing chemicals into the air that you’d never allow to be pumped into your home is bad. I’m going to believe what I see, ice melting and record-setting temperatures.

Climate scientists say emissions and animal raising are leading causes so I’m going to use public transportation as much as possible and consume less animals. I’m going to spread the word, and hope that you can spread it as well.